As parents, Dr. Siegel said that we can foster secure attachment if we remember the following 4 "S"s. Our children need to be:
Seen — this is not just seeing with the eyes. It means perceiving them deeply and empathically — sensing the mind behind their behavior, with what Dr. Siegal calls "mindsight"
Safe — we avoid actions and responses that frighten or hurt them
Soothed — we help them deal with difficult emotions and situations
Secure — we help them develop an internalized sense of well-being